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joeychenWell, my cousin (my cousin's cousin actually, he and his wife live near us) called me today to let me know that they had both been laid off. He's a Phd Biochemist, and she was the office manager at their US office (it's an Australian company). So they have given him a 30 day contract to wrap things up, then they will probably move back to Aust, as finding another job here, or in Europe, and getting visas etc does not look likely.
So that sucked, I liked having some 'family' here, other then Mum, Dad and my sis.
So I called Mr jo to let him know, and that bummed him out :(
Then I called my Mum to let her know, and we chatted a bit. I hadn't called her in almost a week! And I haven't seen her since Xmas.
She always sounds tired cause of the drugs she's on, she talked a bit about how she'll have her first scans in mid-April out in Houston, to see if this treatment is working or not, and to see what the tumours have been doing. But she sounded so down and negative about it. I wasn't sure what to say.
I called Dad next, and told him about the layoff news, and he mentioned an academic in PA that is doing work that might interest my cousin. I asked him about Mum, and he said that she is getting really depressed, and that Katy and I should call more often as that would help and I agreed. I talked about how I wanted to fly down soon. We talked about which airport would be best etc.
Once I got back into the office (I had been at the Chiropractor) I checked into fares, and got one for April 4-6 flying into Carlsbad airport at great times (and not too bad a price for only 7 days advance notice) I called Mum to let her know, and she sounded really happy that I would be coming down, which was great. I suggested that we go to a nearby Botanical park for a walk etc, and hopefully we'll do something else fun, and non-tiring.
So, the Life's Not Fair thing. And I know that there are *so* many things in life that aren't fair, war, third world economic d'ment (well, lack thereof) etc etc. But, this is my personal, hated Life's Not Fair thing.
My mother is dying of cancer, I hate it.
It FUCKING SUCKS!
I hadn't been down about it in quite a while, but it really seems to have hit me today. I had been kinda not thinking about it before. Which I'm OK with. I can't think about it all the time, it would drive me nuts.
But I hate it. She was diagnosed with Kidney cancer (which is particularly nasty and lethal of course) Jan 02. So she's actually doing really well so far in the scheme of kidney cancer longevity. But she's stage IV, it's spread, in her lungs, was in the liver (surgery #2 to remove that tumour). If we're lucky she'll be with us another year or two or three.
She's only 55.
And we all thought it would be the family heart trouble that would get her. Ha, we wish!
So that sucked, I liked having some 'family' here, other then Mum, Dad and my sis.
So I called Mr jo to let him know, and that bummed him out :(
Then I called my Mum to let her know, and we chatted a bit. I hadn't called her in almost a week! And I haven't seen her since Xmas.
She always sounds tired cause of the drugs she's on, she talked a bit about how she'll have her first scans in mid-April out in Houston, to see if this treatment is working or not, and to see what the tumours have been doing. But she sounded so down and negative about it. I wasn't sure what to say.
I called Dad next, and told him about the layoff news, and he mentioned an academic in PA that is doing work that might interest my cousin. I asked him about Mum, and he said that she is getting really depressed, and that Katy and I should call more often as that would help and I agreed. I talked about how I wanted to fly down soon. We talked about which airport would be best etc.
Once I got back into the office (I had been at the Chiropractor) I checked into fares, and got one for April 4-6 flying into Carlsbad airport at great times (and not too bad a price for only 7 days advance notice) I called Mum to let her know, and she sounded really happy that I would be coming down, which was great. I suggested that we go to a nearby Botanical park for a walk etc, and hopefully we'll do something else fun, and non-tiring.
So, the Life's Not Fair thing. And I know that there are *so* many things in life that aren't fair, war, third world economic d'ment (well, lack thereof) etc etc. But, this is my personal, hated Life's Not Fair thing.
My mother is dying of cancer, I hate it.
It FUCKING SUCKS!
I hadn't been down about it in quite a while, but it really seems to have hit me today. I had been kinda not thinking about it before. Which I'm OK with. I can't think about it all the time, it would drive me nuts.
But I hate it. She was diagnosed with Kidney cancer (which is particularly nasty and lethal of course) Jan 02. So she's actually doing really well so far in the scheme of kidney cancer longevity. But she's stage IV, it's spread, in her lungs, was in the liver (surgery #2 to remove that tumour). If we're lucky she'll be with us another year or two or three.
She's only 55.
And we all thought it would be the family heart trouble that would get her. Ha, we wish!
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Date: 2003-03-27 04:22 pm (UTC)Giving your mom the gift of your presence and attention is the best thing for her, I'm sure. You are such a giving, generous, wonderful person, I'm sure you have made her month with your surprise visit. I am also so glad you have the wonderful Mr. Jo & your family to support you. xoxoxo!!
lots of love,
susan